Things I used to believe when I was a kid

Some of the things Athena comes out with make me chuckle, and then wonder what I used to think about things at her age. I remember thinking a few odd things when I was a kid so thought I’d share some of them The world was black and white until colour was invented See my parents used to have a TV & Video shop and I was aware from a young age that TV used to be in Black and White until colour TV became a thing. Therefore in my…

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Things That Make Me Irrationally Angry On Social Media

I am a person that is easily annoyed, though thankfully not easily too offended. I often see things and think NOOOOOOO!!!! Now I’ve got to the rip of old age of 33 (I know right, don’t look a day over 21!) I have just started to unfollow or mute these occurrences when I see them. But I am interested to see if they annoy other people as much as me, so here’s a list of things you can do if you want to instantly annoy me! General Annoyances Fitbit bores.…

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Would I terminate a pregnancy with a Downs Syndrome baby?

I, like many parents I expect, watched Sally Phillips last night on BBC’s A World without Downs. I had heard her chatting on the Scummie Mummies podcast a couple of weeks ago about her family life and the program, and why she wanted to make it. Sally has three sons, one of whom, Olly, has Downs Syndrome. The aim of her film is to get people thinking about what would happen if every pregnant mother knew their baby definitively had Downs Syndrome. A new blood test that the NHS is…

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Compliments and Acceptance

How many times has somebody paid you a compliment in the last month or so? Said your hair looked nice, that you’ve lost weight or that your outfit really suits you? Maybe they’ve told you you’re coping really well with being a mum or said a meal you’ve cooked was delicious? Now think about how many times you’ve replied with something like ‘oh, this old thing?’ Or ‘it’s just something I threw together’ or even ‘lost weight? I’ve put on 8lbs and look horrific’. Why? Why are we so quick…

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Reflecting on a year of being a mum of two, or “for f*cks …

I’ve been a ‘mother of two’ for just over a year now, and amazingly have managed to keep everyone alive, health(ish) and happy (mostly). I can’t say it’s been a breeze, because some days it’s been really bloody difficult. My top three sentences in the last year have been:

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Room 101: Blogging

There are a few things about blogging that I’d love to stick into Room 101 never to be seen again. These are things that annoy me as a blog reader…

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Get Comfortable & win a £50 John Lewis voucher [ended]

Comfort is really important to me. It’s why I get changed back into my Pyjamas as soon as I get through the front door, it’s why I don’t really like wearing socks because I feel more comfortable in bare feet, it’s why I prefer to have feather pillows on the bed. We spend a lot of time and effort on the things around us to make sure we’re comfortable, but often forget the most important part; our own bodies. How I feel about my body has changed a lot in the past…

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A plea: Non parents, don’t desert your parent friends!

I have hardly seen some of my previously close friends since I became a parent of two. This is for a few reasons, but it does upset me a bit so I’ve been thinking about why: Friends never get my full attention in restaurants or coffee shops because I am: Stopping Athena from emptying the sugar bowl/salt shaker/ water jug Asking Athena to sit down and not stand on the chair/table/friends hand bag Attempting to feed Arlo without flashing my boobs Attempting to get Athena to eat Cleaning Athena with baby…

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Attachment Parenting vs Gentle Parenting

I wrote in this post about the future of my blog that I wanted to write more about our parenting style so here goes! When I got pregnant for the first time I was given a whole bunch of books from various people and one of them detailed a daily schedule, almost to the minute (something about being contented, I’m sure you know the one!). I read this naively thinking that this was how parenting is done, and cringing of the idea of getting baby up at a certain time…

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Two under two, it’s not that hard…

… apart from when it is really sodding difficult! The first month with two under two went something like this… Week One: Glorious. Those new baby hazy days… snuggles, feeding, having a toddler who is excited by the new baby and a husband who is on paternity leave and who prepares two cooked meals a day for us. No baby-blues (didn’t get them last time) and a weird feeling of utter joy when I look at my expanded family. Week Two: Fairly glorious still… the new baby excitement is fading…

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What I’ll miss about my commute to work…

So today is my last day at work, I went back after my last maternity leave in July and got pregnant the same week, so I’ve only clocked up 8 months… But I’ve been quite enjoying my 25 minute train commute to and from work, and will actually miss it when I don’t have to do it any more (even though walking up and down the steps at the station leaves me out of breath these days!)  Here’s what I’ll miss: Getting the chance to read a book for 25…

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Why I’m choosing a second Cesarean Section

Athena was born via an elective C section (you can read her birth story here) because of ‘maternal anxiety’ according to my hospital notes. In brief, my husband was a big baby (11’7lbs) and was born via an eventual C section, I was a very small baby 5’11lbs but my mum had a difficult labour and birth and required an operation after I arrived. Sam’s brother was also born with a brain that hadn’t formed properly during pregnancy, and although he lived till he was 18 he needed constant care…

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